What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming?

Growing Stages NLP is a talking therapy that I love because it is constructive, to the point, gets results quickly, and leaves us feeling more resourced and in control. No endless sessions hashing out old wounds. Just friendly, direct, resourceful change.
As an ex teacher and mum, I know how children's behaviour can be affected by anxiety. The skills and techniques I bring to helping kids deal with what is going on, will allow them to let go of their anxiety and be free to be themselves - happy, confident, and in control.
Our brains are constantly developing new connections and pathways. Sometimes old habits, beliefs and experiences get in the way of new and constructive ways of thinking. Instead of leaving all this up to your sub-conscious, we can take control and utilise our consciousness to develop connections that serve us well and get the results we want. We can develop mental skills that work.
NLP is a person centred and brief intervention modality, placing you at the centre of your own change and development. It utilises methods that enhance cognitive defusion, an important part of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) which is widely used as an effective and proven talking therapy. My methods draw on a rich kete of wellbeing and pyschological interventions that enhance your ability to be your best self more often. Sessions are interesting, thought provoking, generally fun, and challenging. We tackle some big issues that often get in the way, allowing you to take what you need for lasting change.
Due to my workload at school, I can only make Wednesdays available for private clients.
Please use the red button on the bottom right of the page to book, or email me if you would like to discuss any aspect of my service.


NLP builds great communication strategies

Building Effective Rapport

When two people are ‘out of sync’ their relationship is going nowhere fast. There is no way you can effectively influence someone to cooperate or change their behaviour when they do not feel as if they are in any way connected or understood. In this course you can learn how to quickly build a connection that opens the door to constructive and meaningful engagement.

Problem Ownership

It can be very frustrating when you feel as though you are trying to help others and they are not responding or you are asserting your needs and no-one seems to care. Learn to work out who has the problem and who needs to be involved in rectifying it. You will also learn to identify the roadblocks we often employ when frustration has kicked in, so that you can avoid these futile and often damaging remarks.

Listening Skills

Often we mistake helping for fixing. When we constantly fix others problems we create dependency and helplessness. Enabling others to work through their own issues and come to useful and constructive solutions for themselves is empowering for both parties. You will learn how to listen and engage in a way that reflects back to the speaker, allowing them to hear and work through their own problems, building logical problem solving strategies, and building confidence and self-esteem.

Resolving Conflict

Delivering the Message When we are not happy about something someone else is doing, it can often be frustrating and even futile to try and get the other person to change. It can feel as if we are banging our head against a brick wall, and if we do bring it up we risk upsetting the other person and damaging our relationship. In this session we will understand what it means to convey our message in a way that it can be received openly and without judgement. We will then go on to explore how we can maximise the chances of resolving the problem and preserving the relationship. When we do this we not only create a good chance that our problem will resolve but we model useful ways for the other person to get their grievances solved as well.

Win-win Conflict Resolution

When two people have a problem involving each other we often go for a compromise. This can just leave either or both parties feeling as if they gave up something and often leads to feelings of resentment and a breakdown in the relationship. In this session we determine what needs or values are involved and we learn a process to work through that enables both parties to have their needs met in a way that leaves them feeling satisfied with the outcome and open to their future relationship.